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By: Robin Norwood (Author)
Is having ‘somebody to love’ the most important…
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change
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By: Robin Norwood (Author)
Is having ‘somebody to love’ the most important…
channelle –
Eye opening
What I liked about this book is that it opened my eyes to my issues and making me more aware when I’m acting in such behavior. The author can be long winded in getting to her points but it’s still a good read. I will recommend this book to anyone that’s having trouble with men not being faithful or dealing with addiction.
Lesli Mitchell LCSW –
Great amazing book
This book was EXCELLENT I really appreciate her insight and brilliant explanations I loved it and will use it in my life
Jamie Belle –
Excellent and thought-provoking….but read others too!
I recently read this book as part of my effort to sort through the emotional devastation of my second divorce to a man whom I clearly loved too much. This book allowed me to see all the ways I went wrong in this four-year relationship, and it also helped me to understand WHY it went wrong. I also now clearly understand that this is a pattern for me, in general, in relationships, and now I can start the work of trying to find new patterns.With that said, I think it’s important to couple this book with “Men Who Can’t Love” by Steven Carter. (All of Steven Carter’s material is very helpful for people trying to understand and improve their relationships, in my opinion). While “Women Who Love Too Much” puts the majority of the blame on the women in these situations, Carter offers the opposite viewpoint: it’s not our fault; we respond as any woman would when confronted with a commitmentphobic man and all his irrational, outrageous behavior. Carter’s book allowed me to understand my ex-husband’s behavior from a different, albeit accurate, point of view.I think the truth probably is somewhere in the middle. In my case, I managed to get involved with a highly commitmentphobic man who showed all the warning signs from the first date, and then I spent four years driving myself absolutely insane loving him too much. It’s like the absolute worst combination possible, haha. The end of the relationship has been devastating and confusing, but these two books have given me tremendous insight and hope that my future can be different. For the first time in my life I’m embracing my single life and the options that come along with it.If you are obsessing over your husband/boyfriend, wondering why he can’t just get his crap together and be happy with you, please read both these books. You need to understand your own motivations, as well as his, to make some decisions about whether or not it’s truly worth all the stress and anxiety you’re likely in. Chances are, it’s not.
LBD –
Helpful but senarios were not me
As I read the reviews here, I see why I thought the stories in this book were a bit redundant. They weren’t ‘true’ stories about ‘patients’ but just fictional stories. I could not relate to her stories very well at all. Only one of them hit close to home but not totally. My therapist suggested I read this book and it wasn’t until the last 2 chapters that I actually found anything I truly related to or anything that would really help me grow and change. I would recommend this book to anyone who has found themselves struggling to control their life and the lives of those around them and to anyone who wants to change the person they love but can’t figure out how to do it. This book will help you change yourself so you can accept your loved one for who he is or kick him to the curb, whichever you prefer. Even though the first few chapters didn’t hold a lot of ‘true to my life’ meaning, they were interesting stories with commentary afterward that helped me when I got to those last 2 chapters that are absolutely wonderful. If you aren’t really ready for a deep change in your life, then this book will fall short of the mark for you. But, if you truly feel like you are dependent on everyone around you to make yourself happy or if you believe that if he would just stop doing ‘this’ or that he would just start doing ‘that’, you could live a happy life, this book is the book for you!
Wynne Virgo –
Acceptance is the antithesis of denial and control
Sat down this Sunday morning to read a few chapters in Robin Norwood’s Women Who Love Too Much and finished the last chapter 4 hours later. I found Norwood’s work insightful and easy to digest. Her belief is that the Love Too Much condition arises out of dysfunctional childhood experiences leaving the woman (or man) recreating familiar circumstance in an adult relationship to work through the childhood problems (not sure, but I believe this principle is also the bases for Imago Therapy?).”A dysfunctional family is one in which members play rigid roles and in which communication is restricted to statements that fit these roles…Members are not free to express a full range of experiences, wants, needs and feelings, ….we learn to not believe in our own perceptions or feelings….We become unable to discern when someone or something is not good for us.” I grew up in a nice home with parents that provided well for the family, I never heard my parent fight or saw them drunk, but perhaps typical of kids in the 1970’s south, we girls were expected to always be nice, polite and respectful……we were NOT allowed to express any type of “negative” emotions or disagree with them EVER.My book is now if filled with underlined and highlighted passages, but here is another of my favorites; “True acceptance of an individual as he is, without trying to change him through encouragement or coercion, is a very high form of love , and very difficult to practice…There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy, but to place the source of happiness outside ourselves…means we avoid our ability and responsibility to change our own life for the better.”There are lots of Norwood’s case studies that are woven through the book that keeps the reading interesting and thought provoking…I had to laugh and agree that I could be a woman who is “addicted” to pain in suffering in personal intimate relationships….hope this helps me break the hurtful pattern.
Glaucia –
Do you want to understand a lot things about love, behavior etc.? This is the book that you need to read. I love it! I learned a lot.
Dua Moll –
This book opened my eyes to how I can take charge of my life and stop unecessary suffering.It was written a few decades ago but every page of it is still relevant today.
Ana Veronica Martinez –
I bought it already as a gift for 3 friends after reading it. Every single women should read this. This content should be teach at school.
wanderlust 2003 –
This book not only completely changed my attitude towards dating but also heal a part of me by encouraging me to take control of my own life. If you are someone who struggles with male validation and constantly seeks it out please please read this book. On the other hand even if you are someone who doesn’t really face issues with things like male validation it is still an amazing read!
Jeah –
It changed my whole outlook and perspective on my relationship and my attitude towards it. I saw myself multiple times in her explanations and stories, I felt seen and it opened the door to better understanding myself. the stories she tells to explain what co-dependence is and what it looks like and how it can feel, makes it relatable and easier to understand. It debunks how you see love in movies and books, it opens your eyes to how unhealthy it all is because its not about the heartache and the yearning.Definitely read it, especially if you feel like you’re giving and giving and getting nothing back in return. The whole book is an epiphany. I want to thank Robin Norwood for changing how I am for the better 🙂 Thank you Robin! Thank you Universe for leading me to this book!!